A "Talk" In Your Shoes

A month ago my school Speech and Language Pathologist came to me with an idea to have a whole school "silent lunch" in which students could only communicate using the "Core Boards" (boards we use with students who are non-verbal or who have minimal communication). She thought this would be a good event to have during Kindness Week for "We Are All Unique" day, and it would give general education students a better understanding of just how difficult, challenging, frustrating, and lonely it is to not be able to speak like everyone else. She wrote a script and I created a couple of videos. The first shared what AAC (Augmentative and Alternative Communication) is. In the second, I told of times where I have had trouble speaking or lost my voice. The day of the event I modeled how to use the board and how to use gestures and pointing for words that are not on the board. She also printed Core Boards and passed out to each teacher. I thought to myself, we are surely going to a lot of effort for something that might be a huge failure.

Oh Miss. Rose of little faith! It was a major success! I had teachers coming up to me the day before saying they had students that were so excited. Of course there were some kiddos not on 'board' (hee hee- core board humor). But for the most part, students were quiet, respectful, and they did their best to use the boards to communicate. And they did an AWESOME job! I had kids making sentences! Telling me "Hi! How are you?" It was MAGICAL! And the cafeteria staff were quite pleased as well. To top it all off I gained my 15 minutes of fame from my videos! "Miss. Rose! There she is!" remarked  few first graders as they passed me in the hallway. I feel SO cool!

Some of the kids were interviewed by our county Assistive Technology superstar afterwards and I really think some kids gained a more empathetic understanding of their differently abled classmates. Some found it really sad and hoped they would find their voice someday and others thought it was really cool that they were learning to talk in a different way. It became a true "talk" in my students' shoes. And it made my heart so happy!

On a much heavier note, I felt like I had my own little "walk in someone else's shoes" experience recently. So this week has been a weird one.  One day all for teacher work day and the other for professional development.  Now, I should preface this by saying I have complete acceptance over the differences in my job and a general education teacher's job. I could not be a General Education Teacher. I tried (student teaching)! And I nearly failed. My world is Special Education and I wouldn't have it any other way. That being said, there were a couple of moments this week where I wished things were. . . different. I wished for an ideal world in which EVERYONE understood that there are some kids that we, fully certified teachers, teach, that do not fit into any mold.

It all began at a Professional Development in which the presenter stated, jokingly, that a Kindergarten expectation should be going "pee pee in the potty". Well sir, not quite. Some students have intellectual or physical disabilities that make it very difficult or impossible to toilet without full or partial assistance. Then there was another meeting in which a video was shown where students came back and told their past teachers how much they meant to them. It was very heartwarming and probably reminded a lot of teachers of their "Why". But considering my students have many communication difficulties, some not being able to verbalize at all, it is not something I should base my "why" on because that day may never come. I get it, my kiddos are less than 1% of the population and if you had a meeting that covered very aspect, program, and classroom as it related to every student, we would be in Professional Development day in and day out. Just once I'd like the presenter, to tell me the modification, tell me how to apply this to students with Moderate Intellectual Disabilities, instead of, "This doesn't really apply to you", or "You know your students".

As I started to feel all "Everyone needs a sensitivity chip!" holier than thou on my pedestal, I started to think about my students' parents and families. If I am feeling this way over two to three circumstances, how must they feel ALL the time. I wouldn't say it was a "walk in their shoes" because I got the whole Monday through Friday 8:30-3:30 thing down but outside of that, I'm clueless. I can say completely that I have a lot more compassion and understanding for the families I work so close with. I also have a lot more caring and a more open heart for my Doodles.

Do they drive me bonkers most of the time? Yes.

Do they require a "Groundhog Day" format to teaching every day (otherwise we might just forget everything)? Absolutely!

But would I change any of that to fit in and not be saddened by a couple things in a Professional Development meeting?

No!
Way!
Jose!

May sunbeams find you!

Lindsay

A Little "Earthy Crunchy Granola"

It all started with a game of BINGO! About four years ago my mom and I were at a charity Bingo game and while I didn’t win any of the bingo games, I did win a raffle. My prize was a gift certificate to something called Pitaiyo (Pilates, Tai Chi, and Yoga). That gift certificate sat in my dresser for a little over a year and I was so glad when I finally got around to using it, it was still valid. Thus began my Earthy Crunchy Granola journey. My favorite part about it at first was just someone telling me how to breathe. In the first year of my teaching career I didn’t really do much breathing. Three years later here I am, listening to someone tell me how to breathe on a nightly basis (meditation y’all).

The school year ending this Friday feels just surreal. It's kind of one of those "too good to be true” feelings. This year has been a year of learning experiences (and that is putting it nicely). So much soul searching, digging for motivation, asking for help, etc. was what this year was made of. And to be honest, I didn't think I'd make it to the end in one piece. Or with any semblance of sanity left. I hope and pray this year was just a season in my career because I do not see myself doing anything other than work with individuals with disabilities and I also don't like the idea of being a "burnout". That's where the earthy crunchy granola comes in really handy.

To be honest I have a little idea of how I survived (And with only a handful of public breakdowns and lots of venting (winning!)). It all has to do with a little Hippy Dippy, Woo Woo, Earthy Crunchy Granola and ACCEPTANCE. This year I have grown so much spiritually. Every misstep, every wrong thing said, every mistake, every struggle, lends an opportunity for me to draw closer to God. To have a relationship with my Creator and be willing to step out of the way to let Him do HIS work. I can’t do that when I’m running around like a chicken with my head cut off. I have to be still. I have to meditate on His word. I have to take care of this body I have been given. I have to slow down my mind and LISTEN. I notice when I get too busy for the things I know work (prayer, meditation, journaling) everything is just so much. . . Harder.

This past school year, as bad as things got sometimes, I experienced more tears because of joy, the feeling of God surrounding me, and laughter than ever before in my entire life. I have so much more compassion for those around me. Monday I was given a reminder that I, Lindsay Caroline Rose, do not have any problems. If the greatest struggle I have is work related, I’m in a really good place. It hasn’t always been that way. For so long I was drowning in a sea of self loathing, self pity, frustration, and fear. I am slowly learning how to manage life on life’s terms and working with myself not against. And that is accomplished, like everything else, one day at a time. Some days are much better than others. Some days I’m spiritually fit and others I’m just glad I got through the day without having to apologize to someone. I am starting to realize, that’s OKAY! That’s life!

I honestly can’t say what the year would have been like without these spiritual tools. Probably wouldn’t have signed that contract on June 1 stating I will be back for another wild ride in August.  I know I will face more challenges in the years to come. I will probably be faced with many challenges as early as tomorrow. But for right now, my heart is full of peace. A peace that came with a release of control and complete surrender. A peace that will be there if I keep the faith and do the things I know work for me.

 I’m grateful for the struggle. I’m grateful for the hardships. And let’s be honest, I’m grateful the last day of school is Friday.

May sunbeams find you!

Lindsay

Five More Minutes. . .

Recently I have been hearing this song (Five More Minutes by Scotty McCreery) every time I turn on the radio. It's one of those that give me all of the feels no matter what mood I'm in. "Five more minutes" has come out of my mouth many times for many different reasons. When I was little hearing my mom's whistle from the woods behind my house letting us know it's time to come in. The night before college graduation hanging out with all of my friends before we went into the real world (or back to mom and dad's).  That last conversation I had with my Mommaw. Most frequently, practically any time the alarm goes off in the morning.

This is the first week back from Spring Break, getting back into the swing of things, and practically anything that's ever been due in the history of teaching is due next Friday. I like to call it my final exam time of year. Early mornings, late nights, less showers. Yesterday I had a "Five More Minutes" moment. There's a time during the day when the playground is empty. When I get a crazy notion, I take my doodles out there and we have the place to ourselves for about 45 minutes. IT. IS. MAGICAL. I don't have to do that thing I do at Recess with grade levels where every minute I'm scanning for all of them, I don't have to worry about stressing the importance of personal space and explaining that the prompt verbiage for the other kids is "hands off", I don't have to start prepping them 10 minutes, 5 minutes, 3 minutes before their homeroom teacher calls the whistle- they get to just BE. Do not get me wrong, it's not a free for all. We do work on expressive language, turn taking, and safe choices but it's just so much more enjoyable when you're outside surrounded by playground equipment (and when you're hanging upside down on the jungle gym).

Yesterday, I was on this stool thing and one of my gals was spinning me around. I was going so fast my surroundings were just a blur and a rainbow of colors. I was yelling, "AHHHHHHHHHH! Slow down I'm gonna puke!!!!!" and my students were laughing so hard! Then I went down the slide a time or two. After that, 1/2 way up the rock wall (it's really scary). Then flips on the jungle gym and lifting up three or four doodles so they would get a turn on the monkey bars.

When I saw 2nd grade coming out for their recess I was so dissapointed. I wanted to stay out there for 5 more minutes! Maybe I wanted 5 more minutes because I knew I'd be at school until really late. But maybe. . just maybe. . . I like those moments where I'm not a real grown up. And when I can just be silly and enjoy them without worrying about how they are coping with the world around them. We just get to be ourselves. Just how we are.

This job is hard. Like really really hard. Lots of jobs are hard. Life is hard. Things will always try to distract me, zap my joy, and take me away from recognizing how blessed I am every single day. But not if I don't let it. Not if I continue to pray and trust that there is a plan at work that is greater than my own. A dear friend of mine has been teaching Special Education for over twenty years. One particular day this Fall I was struggling. Big time. So many "not fairs!" I asked her how she handles it. Her response: "Pause. Breathe. Pray." If I take the time to do that everything changes. Not just with work. With any curve ball life or my crazy mind takes me. It's so easy to get wrapped up in the paperwork, the data, the emotions, the setbacks, the regression, the planning, the prepping, the laws, but that's not why I do this. Those things just come with a job I LOVE to do. I've got to focus on the joy and concentrate on what I can give back to this world. Playground afternoons keep me sane. Next week I hope we have good weather because I can't wait to try to master the rock wall.

And next week, I'm going to take those five more minutes.


May sunbeams find you!

Lindsay